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Enough weak political commentary. I'm scaring myself with this hard left turn I've just taken. Let's instead tell yet another story from 1989, back when politics was the furthest thing from my mind.

And then, there was the girl who attempted suicide right in front of me.

Her name was Michele, with one "l." She was a year younger than me, tan, big brown eyes, a little on the heavy side. I met her through a mutual friend at school. I was intrigued by her slightly bizarre sense of humor and her really cool voice. We dated a few times. It turned out her sense of humor wasn't the only bizarre thing about her, so I, in my single-guy wisdom, decided that dating her a few more times probably wouldn't be a good idea.

I guess she didn't take it well. One Saturday night in May, about 8 p.m., my roommates and I got a hang-up call right as we were leaving the house. As soon as we determined the caller wasn't going to leave a message, we went out the door. I heard the phone ring again. "Wanna get that?" Mark asked. "Nope," I said.

It was a night for motorcycle riding, and ride we did. When we rode, we didn't drink. (We were at least that intelligent. The margin for error on a motorcycle is pretty small.) We rode until a little past midnight, and came home, clear-headed but tired. When we got home, the message light on the machine was flashing.

Mark hit the button. Michele's voice came from the machine. "Don't call me back, not that you will anyway," the quavering voice said. "By the time you get this, I'll probably be pretty sick." Then some really long soliloquy that I don't remember much of. Then, a pause. I thought the tape had run out. Mark's face was ashen, which surprised me. He didn't scare easily. And I wasn't particularly taken aback; this woman had a flair for the dramatic. I figured she was just doing her drama-queen thing. I wondered what he had heard that I hadn't. I was fully prepared to ignore it and go to bed.

Then: "It's been fun."

Click.

Mark was still looking at the phone. "Guess you better go check that out," he said.

I grabbed my helmet and started for the door. "You know," Mark said, "you probably should take your truck."

Yeah, I probably should. I drove to her apartment, which was near the university campus, wondering what I was going to see. I knew that Michele wasn't, shall we say, mentally stable. I didn't know her well enough to know where her line was. Was this some kind of ruse, or sick prank? Was she just trying to get me to talk to her?

I took a deep breath as I jumped out of my truck and walked to her door. I heard music coming from her apartment. I knocked a couple of times, then I tried the knob. Coincidentally, it was unlocked.

She was sitting in a rocking chair in the corner to my left. A strong smell of something was in the air. I determined it was some alcoholic beverage. This struck me as odd, because Michele wasn't the drinker that, say, I was.

"Hi," she said from her chair. I saw then why the house smelled like wine. The top part of the bottle was in her hand. I walked a little further and noticed the rest of the bottle -- and its contents -- were on the kitchen floor to my right. An empty bottle of store-brand aspirin was on the kitchen table.

It took me about .0023 second to compute the possibilites for that wine-bottle neck she was holding in her hand. It took me a hell of a lot longer to figure out what I should do about it. "Did you take the aspirin?" I asked. "Is that why that's there?" I pointed to the little bottle on the table.

"Yeah," she said. "It was almost full." I looked: 500 count. I doubted that was fatal in itself, but I figured in a few hours she was going to be pretty uncomfortable. And I didn't know how much, if any, of the wine she had consumed.

I was being fairly careful not to talk to her; I figured I had the right to remain silent, and anything I said could be used as an excuse to go off the deep end. I walked to the phone.

She moved in the chair, sitting forward. The bottle neck was in her left hand, sharp side pointing away from her. "Don't call anybody."

"I have to call an ambulance," I said, calmly, trying really hard not to belie my agitation. "You're going to be really sick."

"I'm not going to be really sick," she said. "I'm going to be fucking dead. Don't you understand that? That's what I want." She wasn't trying to hide her agitation. Next step: reasoning.

"If you wanted to be fucking dead," I said, barely above a whisper, "you wouldn't have called me."

"You didn't call me back," she said. "You didn't care."

"I wasn't home," I said, still quietly. "I came as soon as I got your message."

A few minutes of silence ensued. It would be an understatement to call it an "awkward" silence. I was watching her for signs: Signs that she was going to do anything stupid with the bottle neck. Signs of her being sick. Signs of her not actually having taken the aspirin at all. Signs of this being some sort of silly melodrama. While I was watching her, a completely unrelated thought hit me: she was a lot heavier than she had been when I last saw her, three weeks previous. Probably 10 pounds, maybe 15. I don't know why this occurred to me at such a time, but it did. Hey, I was a 20-year-old guy. I noticed these things.

I took another step toward the phone. She sprang up out of the chair and pulled it out of the wall and threw it across the room with her free hand. The bottle neck was still in her left hand. I backed way off; I was standing at this point in the kitchen, one foot in the puddle of vino on the floor.

Apparently satisfied she had gotten her point across, she sat back down in her rocking chair. If it was merely silly melodrama, it had suddenly become quite a bit sillier. I really had no idea what she had done, and what the effect of whatever she had done was going to be, so I decided to go to Plan C: waiting her out. If she had taken several hundred aspirin, at some point, she was going to pass out. I'd make my phone call then.

I went back to Plan B, the "reasoning" approach. "OK, I'm not going to call an ambulance," I said, "but I have to use the phone."

"Who the hell are you going to call?" she asked weakly. Could she be on the downswing? I hoped, and feared.

"My mom," I said, calmly. My mom had experience dealing with mental cases and other unstable elements of society; she had worked in mental health for 10 years before becoming a corrections officer. I had no doubt she would know 1/what several hundred aspirin would do to someone and 2/how to deal with someone who was off her rocker in every way but literally. "I need to ask her a question."

"You promise that's who you're calling?" she asked.

"Yeah," I said. "I promise."

Silence. Then, "OK."

Thankfully, the phone was still in pretty good shape. I plugged it in to the jack in her bedroom and dialed up my mom. It was a little after 2 a.m. I explained the situation as quickly and as neutrally as I could, knowing that Michele was listening. "How long has she been like this?" my mom asked. "I've been here about two hours," I said. "She'll fall asleep soon," my mom said. "You're safe until then."

I looked out the bedroom door, and my mom was exactly right. It appeared that Michele had fallen asleep in her rocking chair. I walked over, very slowly, and took the bottle neck out of her hand. "Gotta go," I said to Mom. "Time to call 911."

I called 911 and asked for an ambulance. A police officer showed up first. I was a little irked by that -- you know, she needs to go to the hospital, not to jail -- and a little more irked when I realized most of the cop's questions were directed toward me. I answered them, trying to keep my irkedness to myself, and the ambulance showed up shortly thereafter.

"You want to ride with her?" the cop asked.

I thought about it. There's my truck. If I ride with her, I'll have no ride home. "Yeah, I'll ride with her," I said.

Michele was completely unconscious by this time. The EMTs were scurrying, which made me feel a little safer; they were at least treating her like she was alive, which relieved me of the obligation to ask. They loaded her up. I rode up front, next to the driver. We made our way to the hospital, lights, no siren.

An awful thought occurred to me when we arrived, crashing through the doors like they do on ER: I had to call her parents. I had never met her parents. I wasn't even sure I could remember their names. It was by now well after 3 a.m. I decided to put that off for a while.

Doctors determined Michele had indeed taken the aspirin. Michele's stomach was pumped, she was given some form of medication, and she was awake and reasonably alert by 5 or so. "I have to call your parents," I said.

"No, no, no," she managed to say, shaking her head weakly. "Please don't."

"I have to," I said. "They need to know." Plus, I thought to myself in my most caring way, you're going home with them, not me. "What are their names?"

She told me, and I called. It was the most difficult phone call I had ever made in my life up to that point. I wasn't sure what I was going to say to these people I didn't know. I identified myself, and Michele's mom seemed to recognize the name. That helped calm me, a little bit. "Michele is in the hospital," I said. After the usual oh-my-gods and yeah,-she's-ok,-but, her mom said she and her husband were on their way. They had an hour drive from a small burg south of Anytown.

I stayed in the room and held Michele's hand until her parents arrived. Michele wanly made the introductions. I braced myself. Her mom gave me a big hug. "Thank you, thank you," she said. Uh, OK.

Mom and Dad assured themselves (and, indirectly, me) that they were going to be taking Michele home. Mom motions to me and asked, "Do you drink coffee?" I didn't at the time, but figured it would be a good time to start. We walked to the coffee machine down the hall.

Mom explained to me that Michele had not been in the best of mental health for a while. She had been living at home and had been doing reasonably OK, but then she rented this apartment in Anytown. She had only been there a few months; she had, in fact, rented the apartment since I knew her. "She got that to be closer to you," Mom said.

I mentally sighed and shook my head. "We told her not to, but she did it anyway," Mom said. She explained that she had decided it would be a good chance to test how Michele would do on her own. I guess they had their answer.

In my not-yet-21 self-centeredness, the main thing I was trying to figure out was if they were upset with me. I was reasonably assured they weren't. "I'm so glad you thought so quickly and helped her," Mom said. "God only knows what would have happened if you hadn't."

"I just did what I thought would be right," I said. "Listen," I added, "it's probably best if I said 'bye' to Michele and let y'all take it from here. I don't mean to be mean, but it's probably best if I'm not around." I wasn't sure how Mom was going to take that. Thankfully, she agreed. "If you need any help on this end, getting her lease canceled or whatever, let me know," I said. "Otherwise, I'm probably going to not call."

"I understand," Mom said.

"Does she need, you know, help?" I asked.

"Yeah, she does," Mom said. "And she'll get it this time." I wondered what had happened "last" time.

With that, I turned my attention to figuring out how I was going to get home. In a surprise development, I saw my mother in the waiting room. She had apparently listened to the whole thing unfold on the scanner. "Man, am I glad to see you," I said.

The sun was up. My mom took me home. I went directly to sleep and didn't wake up until just before I had to be at work that afternoon. At the time, I just chalked it off to another wacky event that had gone on around me.

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I didn't think about that night -- or Michele -- until just before Christmas.

She had sent me a Christmas gift and a card. I set it aside and called her after the first of the year. She asked me if I wanted to get together for coffee, or dinner, or something. "I'm taking medication," she said. "I'm not crazy anymore."

"I never thought you were crazy," I said.

"Well, I was," she said. "Or am, or whatever. That's what the doctors tell me, anyway."

I decided that meeting her for dinner wouldn't be a bad thing. Hell, I needed to eat anyway.

I was surprised to see her; she had changed visibly. She had lost a significant amount of weight since I had seen her last; she was, in fact, thinner than when I had first met her. She was no longer "a little on the heavy side."

She explained that her mental issues -- and her weight -- were caused by a thyroid problem of some sort. With the problem under medical control, she said, she was attacking both issues with equal gusto. Therapy and diet had returned her to a state of solid mental and physical health. She was back in school, down in her hometown, and she was doing well.

She invited me to come down to her parents' bar sometime. I did; that was another story. I only saw Michele one other time after that; a few months later, I was engaged to someone else, and the whole episode had become another footnote among my stories from the previous year.

But I did learn a lot about mental illness. There are some strains of mental illness that run in my family, but it was the first time I had encountered it in a peer, somebody my age. I learned that it's something to be taken seriously, both by those who have it and by those who know someone who has it.

And I had never before been in a position where I had to simply trust my instinct. I could -- and still can -- question anything 10 ways to Sunday. But in the end, you have to do what strikes yourself as right.